BDSM

Like your erotic romance with a little kink? Check out what BDSM ManLove has to offer. Men might test the limits of their love with bold new sex toys, or a sub might learn discipline for his issues with control, trust, or just garden-variety brattiness from a Dom who knows that a punishment can often be as sweet as a reward.

Recommendations:

High Heat by Tatum Throne, Rook’s Demon by JC Holly, Vampire’s Mate by Dakota Dawn, Dark Times (series) by Christine Shaw, Love Slave for Two: Beginnings by Tymber Dalton, Ingenue’s Choice by Gracie C. McKeever, Dominant Alpha by Anitra Lynn McLeod, Jacob at the Break of Dawn by Ellen Ginsberg

 

Terminology:

Dom: The dominant partner who guides what is happening in a scene and has the power to discipline or restrain the other.
sub:
The submissive partner who relinquishes control for erotic benefit, often involving restraint or punishment.
switch:
Someone involved in BDSM who is comfortable as both a Dom and sub.
subspace:
 A high, often involving a sense of disconnect or “floating” sensation, that a sub gets from pain and relinquishing control.
safe word:
A word privately agreed upon between a Dom and sub that a sub can use to stop a scene that has become too intense.
flogger:
An implement used in scenes that can be used for whipping or caressing, usually made up of a handle and attached straps.
St. Andrew’s Cross:
A X-shaped piece of BDSM equipment that can be used for restraining a partner, usually at the hands, waist, and feet, so that he is standing upright with arms above his head and legs spread.

 

Resources:

http://www.reviewsbyjessewave.com/2010/08/17/ins-and-outs-of-mm-romance-writing-bdsm-by-james-buchanan/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glossary_of_BDSM

 

BDSM V: Polyamory in BDSM: Leontii Holender

Posted by on Jul 5, 2013 in BDSM, Featured Article | 1 comment

BDSM V: Polyamory in BDSM: Leontii Holender

I think we can all agree that polyamory is no longer taking a backseat in erotic ManLove fiction, as we now have tons of Ménage titles that showcase the complex dynamics of polyamorous relationships between swoon-worthy heroes. Beyond the world of erotic fiction, polyamory has become broadly practiced in the real-world BDSM/Leather/Fetish community. Just like in our favorite sexy Ménage titles, the people that participate in polyamory in the BDSM context are used to stretching their emotional boundaries via their participation in the...

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BDSM IV: Scene Negotiations: Leontii Holender

Posted by on Jun 21, 2013 in BDSM, Featured Article | 1 comment

BDSM IV: Scene Negotiations: Leontii Holender

Whether you’re a top/dom, bottom/submissive/slave, switch, or whatever role strikes your fancy, there’s one important thing you’ve got to know how to do to keep yourself and others safe—pre-scene negotiations. It’s this kind of open and honest communication that keeps people safe when they practice BDSM. Even as a writer or reader of ManLove, sometimes we can jump into the steamy whipping play without showing the realistic discussion that happens behind the scenes. Understanding what makes a BDSM scene safe and what doesn’t can...

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BDSM III: Roles: Leontii Holender

Posted by on Jun 7, 2013 in BDSM, Featured Article | 1 comment

BDSM III: Roles: Leontii Holender

When last we met, we spent some time talking about the major intrapersonal dynamics found in BDSM. In some of our favorite ManLove romance we can see these broad-spectrum relationship themes, but what if you’re looking to spice up your manuscript with a specific type of role-play without changing the major character traits of your heroes? That’s where role-playing, or using the roles explained below, can give your writing even more creative release. Not every type of role we discuss will be conducive to erotic romance, but having a...

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BDSM II: Dynamics: Leontii Holender

Posted by on May 24, 2013 in BDSM, Featured Article | Comments Off on BDSM II: Dynamics: Leontii Holender

BDSM II: Dynamics: Leontii Holender

One of the key terms that someone will hear when discussing BDSM is the practice of informed consent. Consensual and mutual agreement between two (or more) participants in a power-exchange relationship or scene is fundamental to a safe and pleasing experience for all parties involved. It is important in BDSM, which is often practiced through a trust-based exchange of physical and mental stimulation, that any participant’s boundaries are known and respected. How do we distinguish and inform our potential partners of what exactly it is that...

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BDSM I: History & Community: Leontii Holender

Posted by on May 10, 2013 in BDSM, Featured Article | Comments Off on BDSM I: History & Community: Leontii Holender

BDSM I: History & Community: Leontii Holender

From whips and chains, raunchy BDSM clubs, to a little spank and tickle, BDSM (An acronym for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/submission, and Sadism/Masochism) themes have become a popular avenue for those looking to delve into the world of romantic fiction as a reader or writer. For the modern-day writer, some of the mysticism around the variety of erotic activity and intrapersonal dynamics that encompasses the world of BDSM can be a bit tricky to navigate. Often the imaginative and elaborate scenes a reader can find in their favorite ManLove...

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Sex Toys Series Part VII: Ball Gag

Posted by on Apr 16, 2013 in BDSM, Sex Toys Series | 2 comments

Sex Toys Series Part VII: Ball Gag

As Seen In… Beau Bitten by Jana Downs The Mountie’s Werewolf [The Werewolves of Moose Creek 1] by Hanna Hart Training TJ [Hard Hits 1] by Tatum Throne Have you ever noticed that a single glance can say so much more than words? That seeing a flicker of emotion in your lover’s eyes is so much more powerful than…Okay, okay, that stuff is nice and all, but let’s take that silence to another level. Having your partner gagged, unable to speak and completely at your mercy, can be really hot. (Of course, taking the submissive role can be...

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Sex Toys Series Part VI: Paddle

Posted by on Apr 2, 2013 in BDSM, Sex Toys Series | 2 comments

Sex Toys Series Part VI: Paddle

As Seen In… Lest We Forget [Fatefully Yours Christmas] by Gabrielle Evans Cowboys and Pearls [Loving in Silver 5] by Lynn Stark It’s been a few weeks since the topic of BDSM was broached in Part IV with the flogger, so it seems like the perfect time to revisit the nonvanilla side of things. There are several different implements that can be used in impact play, and each one can provide a different sensation. This site does a great job identifying and explaining those sensations. Just like floggers, paddles were originally used for...

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Sex Toys Series Part IV: Flogger

Posted by on Mar 5, 2013 in BDSM, Sex Toys Series | Comments Off on Sex Toys Series Part IV: Flogger

Sex Toys Series Part IV: Flogger

As Seen In… Lover’s Obsession [Bloodkin 2] by Scarlet Hyacinth Accepting a Mate [Dark Times 5] by Christine Shaw High Heat by Tatum Throne Our favorite ManLove heroes endure a lot to get their happily ever afters. After all, their happiness wouldn’t be as sweet if they hadn’t experienced the pain that came before.  But for some men, a little bite of pain isn’t something to endure, it’s something to enjoy, and one of the most popular toys in kinky ManLove is the flogger. Now, thanks to a certain bestselling trilogy, more and more...

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Sneak Peek: Cowboys and Pearls by Lynn Stark

Posted by on Feb 21, 2013 in BDSM, Sneak Peeks | Comments Off on Sneak Peek: Cowboys and Pearls by Lynn Stark

Sneak Peek: Cowboys and Pearls by Lynn Stark

Silver, Colorado, welcomes two flashy new residents who waste no time stirring up local libidos in the fifth book of Lynn Stark’s Loving in Silver series, Cowboys and Pearls. Renowned Japanese-American fashion designers Wesley and Teddy Kimura have retired from their jet-setting lifestyles to settle down in Silver, and they’ve had their eye on a companion in town for some time. When they’re not fussing over their glitzy wardrobe choices, the twins are trying to corner Nick Walker, the handsome cowboy who recently lost his wife and...

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Sneak Peek: Training Ryan by Tatum Throne

Posted by on Feb 20, 2013 in BDSM, Sneak Peeks | Comments Off on Sneak Peek: Training Ryan by Tatum Throne

Sneak Peek: Training Ryan by Tatum Throne

When flight medic Dr. Ryan Barrow saves gorgeous cop Trent Lakeland from a potentially fatal gunshot wound, he knows he recognizes the handsome policeman, but simply can’t figure out how. After the two heroes are reunited at Ryan’s annual naughty photo shoot for charity, neither can contain his excitement—or attraction. They now know that fate is to thank for their chance encounter. However, Trent is now deaf as a result of the accident, and struggling to come to terms with how it will affect a potential relationship with Ryan. What’s...

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