Sex Toys Series Part VII: Ball Gag

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Have you ever noticed that a single glance can say so much more than words? That seeing a flicker of emotion in your lover’s eyes is so much more powerful than…Okay, okay, that stuff is nice and all, but let’s take that silence to another level. Having your partner gagged, unable to speak and completely at your mercy, can be really hot. (Of course, taking the submissive role can be hot, too!) A ball gag is perfect for fulfilling that particular fantasy.

I’m sure you know what’s coming. Just like any other BDSM activity, you must communicate with your partner and be safe. Once you’ve discussed your desires and concluded that a ball gag is exactly what you’ve been wanting, it’s important to discuss all your options. Some people may have jaw injuries, and jaw muscles can become less resilient with age. These issues mean you may have to make some adjustments when you play, like only using the gag for a limited amount of time, but it does not mean you have to forgo the experience! For those who find the idea appealing but are a little nervous, there are training systems available. This one comes with three different sizes, and each ball has holes in it for comfortable breathing. Another ball gag that’s perfect for beginners is this one from Tantus, which is contoured to fit comfortably in the mouth.

Once you’ve decided to take the leap and play with ball gags, you may wonder what to do about safe words. There are many ways to ensure that you can communicate with your partner in this situation. Kinky World suggests the person with the gag have a ring of keys or a squeaky toy, anything that they can hold comfortably and use to make a noise in the event he feels uncomfortable or scared. Agreeing on a specific hand signal or dropping a heavy object could work, too.

Silicone is often suggested as the best material for a ball gag, since it’s odorless, tasteless, and easy to clean. Fetish Fantasy Elite makes a gag that’s 100 percent silicone, but if leather’s your thing, ASLAN has some beautiful gags. (Vegans, fear not! There’s something for you, too.) The ball in each of these gags is easily removed for cleaning. Now, if you feel up to getting a little wilder, there are gags with dildos or anal beads attached and even candy ball gags if you’ve got a sweet tooth.

Is your interest piqued yet? If so, check out the links below for tips on safety and choosing the best ball gag for you. Have fun!

Helpful Links:

Ball Gag Safety Tips for Beginners

BDSM Advice Series: Gags

EdenFantasys Gags

ASLAN Leather Gags

By Jackie de la Garza, Staff Contributor

2 comments

  1. Very informative, thank you :)