Sex Toys Series Part X: Wax Play

Japanese Drip Candles

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When you’re spending a night in with your partner, lighting a few candles can really set the mood. The soft, warm lighting is universally flattering, and the flickering of the flames adds an extra sensual element to your night. It may even make you wonder what else you could do with those candles. After all, we’ve all seen the “Livin’ la Vida Loca” music video. (Be warned: that particular scene isn’t to be found on YouTube at the moment.) However, before you channel your inner Ricky Martin, it’s important to know some basic safety information about wax play.

The most important thing to know is that not every candle is suitable for wax play. It’s vital that you use a wax with a low melting point, as higher melting points can cause burns. Paraffin wax is recommended most often for wax play. Also, though it may not sound very sexy, when you are playing with fire you should make sure there’s a fire extinguisher nearby and that you know how to use it.  In addition to these safety tips, here are some more “don’ts”: don’t drip wax on your partner’s face or hair and don’t drip wax onto areas with lots of body hair unless you’re ready for the inevitable pain. Wax play is messy, so putting down a drop cloth is a good idea.

When beginning to experiment with wax play, start slow. Test out the wax you’ll be using by dripping it onto your partner from far away, and lower the candle until you find the perfect height for your partner. Different body parts may require the candle be held at different heights. This “testing” process should be repeated whenever a new type of candle is used. Once you’ve discovered what works best, you can experiment with larger volumes of wax and, if you discover you’ve got a knack, maybe even artwork. Of course, the more wax you use, the more you will be scraping off your partner and yourself at the end of the night.

Wax play is exciting and fun, and anyone can experiment with it. However, it does require a lot of preparation and communication. But the extra time needed to talk out the sensations with your partner can be just as exciting as the act itself. Be sure to check out the links below for even more detailed tips and precautions as well as ways to buy candles!

Fun with Wax 101

Wax Play Information

Japanese Drip Candles

Scandle Body and Massage Candles

BDSM Wax Play Low-Temp Candles

By Jackie de la Garza, Staff Contributor


  1. I found this article informative and I’ll be checking out the suggested articles. I used a little wax play in my last novel, but I think I need a little more instruction. Thanks.

    • jackie.delagarza /

      Thanks, E.A.! So happy it was helpful for you. :)